In 2006, I remember reading the story of the Amish community in Lancaster, Pennsylvania who forgave a murderer. This hit the front page of most newspapers including the Pacific Daily News. The headlines read "Amazing Grace." The Amish people are Christians who chose to live simple lives. They distance themselves from the more advanced modern society of American life and worldly influence.
Charles Robert was a milk truck driver who served the local community. He was not Amish. Nine years earlier, his wife gave birth to a baby girl; however, the girl died twenty minutes later. Her death greatly affected him, and he never forgave God for her death. On October 2, 2006, Charles Robert entered a small Amish school. He ordered the adults to leave. He also ordered the boys to leave the building. According to news report:
Roberts had the 10 girls lie down facing the blackboard and he tied their hands and feet. Roberts told the girls he was sorry for what he was about to do, but “I’m angry at God and I need to punish some Christian girls to get even with him.”He shot all ten girls. The age of the girls range from 6-13 years old. Five were killed before he shot himself. In the midst of their sorrow and shocking loss, the Amish community did not cast any blame nor point any fingers. They did not held press conferences with lawyers at their sides. Instead, they reached out with compassion and forgiveness toward the killer's family. This is why the story hit headlines. It is unheard of to forgive the enemy.
However, forcing someone to kneel before you and demanding him to ask forgiveness is only seeking to humiliate. True forgiveness is where healing begins. Forgiveness is not for the other person. It is for ourselves. It is for our healing.
As in the words of Christ, "Forgive them, Father, for they know not what they do."

